Sex, love and security: accounts of distance and commitment in LAT relationships

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Carter, J., Duncan, S., Stoilova, M. and Phillips, M. 2015. Sex, love and security: accounts of distance and commitment in LAT relationships. Sociology. https://doi.org/10.1177/0038038515573689
AuthorsCarter, J., Duncan, S., Stoilova, M. and Phillips, M.
Abstract

Drawing on a 2011 national survey and 50 semi-structured interviews, we explore the differing ways in which those in living apart together (LAT) relationships discuss and experience notions of commitment . We found that sexual exclusivity in LAT is expected by the large majority, regardless of their reasons for living apart. The majority of the interviewees also expressed a high degree of commitment to their partner in terms of love, care and intimacy, as well an appreciation of the increased freedom and autonomy that living apart has to offer. Respondents were divided into four groups according to their perceived commitment: 1. Autonomous commitment, 2. Contingent commitment, 3. Ambivalent commitment, and 4. Limited commitment. Despite differing degrees of commitment, however, the overall finding was that the importance of relating and making relational decisions was central, even in the lives of those living in such unconventional relationship styles.

Year2015
JournalSociology
PublisherSAGE
ISSN0038-0385
Digital Object Identifier (DOI)https://doi.org/10.1177/0038038515573689
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Print31 Mar 2015
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Deposited19 Feb 2015
Accepted2014
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